Daddy’s Home: Alpha Vs Beta/ Step-Dad Vs Father


Daddy’s Home is a hilarious comedy that I think everyone should see. The scene at the NBA game is priceless and worth every penny alone. Anyways, this film presented a rather comical look at our modern cultures make-up of the dynamics between women and men, and how what we are seeing today in domestic relationships is an example of a long history of environmental changes that has caused this dynamic.

First off, The narration begins with a soft-hearted, radio station manager, Brad (Ferrell) explaining the difference between a father and a dad. He further elaborates as to why he delightfully prefers to take on the role of the step-dad to Dylan (Owen Wilder Vaccaro) and Megan (Scarlett Estevez), the two young children of his strikingly beautiful wife, Sarah (Linda Caredellini).Brad realises the importance of the father spending time with his children and succumbs to the children’s biological father, Dusty’s (Mark Wahlberg) insincere flattery, when he lands up at their home.The passive-aggressive battle for the children’s affection forms the crux of this film.

If Will Ferrell didn’t exist, men might have to invent him. Ferrell’s screen persona—an idiot, generally speaking—is guileless, clueless, boorish, foolish and, often enough, funny. But he’s also intended to make us uneasy. He’s a repository of male anxieties, insecurities and doubt. A scapegoat. A whipping boy. An avenue of transference without the high price of psychoanalysis.

This has never been truer than in Daddy’s Home, which—make no mistake—is first and foremost a humiliation comedy of the most cringe-inducing variety. But in its vulgar, antic way, it also raises questions about modern manhood, the wisdom of doing the right thing and the sexual allure of decency.

The film hits home in subtle way of how feminism or the feminization of culture has caused this dynamic to happen as female hypergamy has been let loose.

If a woman is in the throes of baby rabies, the temptation to settle for a beta provider is huge. This is where evolutionary psychology and contemporary social expectations differ. Hunter-gatherer providers were mostly all alphas. After all, those alphas brought home the protein and slew the saber-tooth tiger.

It’s only after humanity embraced agriculture and industrialization did the concept of the beta provider come to fore. Caring for children – especially just after birth – requires the ability to provide for both woman and child. The steady, reliable man who kept a solid farm or worked hard in the factory was the best option for a woman looking to spawn.

In fact, so good was the beta provider that an entire matrix of social expectations was built to steer young women towards that type of man. Family, community, the culture at large made it very clear that the often economically unstable – but vagina tingle-causing – alpha was not an appropriate father. Those social expectations continued on until women were liberated from following the social expectations. “Find a good, solid man” became “never settle”.

With women liberated (open hypergamy) to think only with their genitals, a perverse situation has emerged and Daddy’s Home tries to convey this but in an exaggerated way. The beta provider might be great for supporting the kids with financial resources; it’s the alpha male who is great for supporting the vagina with sexual pleasure. Today’s woman will actively be seeking both types of men, sometimes concurrently.

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